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Here I am sitting in my last and least favorite class of the day. Not to mention its Valentine’s Day and I finally have a date, the last place I want to be is world civ recitation. I did most of the reading for the class that week on the treacherously cold walk to class in fear of a quiz. Correct to my suspicions I was right, and false to my expectation I did quite well until I got to the bonus…

What country did Valentine’s Day originate in? When did it begin being celebrated?

Then it hit me…. I had not a clue in the world. Valentine? Um, hmm kind of sounds like a roman name, St. Valentine? Yeah! Yeah, I think that’s right, I will go with that. Oh man I’m thinking at least in the 1900s I mean you never heard about Cesar doing anything for valentines and that was way before the Byzantines….

So, I finished with two wild guesses, the one about St Valentine being right. Although, this got me to think, why do people celebrate a holiday that they have no idea what or who it is they are celebrating and what was the proper way to celebrate? So like any kid, I went on the internet to further my research about this holiday and ended up finding an interesting article on inventors.com; Turns out historians argue about Valentines’ true identity although they know indefinitely that he was roman, he was said to have wrote a letter in prison to a jailers daughter and then in the 15th century a man did the same and by the 18th century couples all over were exchanging handwritten letters. It wasn’t until 1840 that it became a well known holiday in America and now people all over the world participate in spending time with those that they love, exchanging gifts, passion and have a good time doing the things that they love.


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However, there was one thing I didn’t have to go on the internet to know about Valentines and that is how much more fun it can be if you have a date to celebrate with. Those with dates will get to spend time with people they care about, exchange gifts, feelings and celebrate. Unfortunately, for those without a date, Valentine’s Day has been stereotyped as a sad and constant reminder of how alone you are. Here on campus the couples roam the halls kissing and holding hands, while a majority of those who are single walk around with their heads down, hands in their pockets, and disappointment on their faces. Which has lead me to a discovery that there are really only three types of people on Valentines, the couples, the happily single, and then the sad and single. I remember just last year I was one of those kids, I was coming out of a bad relationship and the last thing I wanted to do was think about feelings. As I walked around campus struggling to take pictures of things to post on this blog, I couldn’t help but notice this mangled and oddly placed school paper.  That was because I had saw a man reading the same paper 15 minutes before hand and thought to take a picture of him, but didn’t know what to write because the man had no expression on his face. Now I think I know why, he must have really hated Valentines, I mean look, how do you go from reading it to it being under the leg of the chair you were sitting on. Some people really don’t like this holiday, and now that I had a date I almost looked at them as “the grinches” trying to ruin valentines for the rest of us. As they walk around gloomy and depressed, I believe they steal the hope and beliefs that you don’t need a date on Valentines to have a good day.


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Part of the reason why Valentine’s Day is such a great day for some people is all the gifts they can receive and if you’re like any guy wondering what to get someone on Valentines, the most common choice would be a rose. In 18th century Sweden, Charles II was one of the first to introduce the idea of flowers symbolizing emotions or messages carrying non-verbal messages, according to an article on proflowers.com. The red rose indicates romance and love, whilst the yellow rose is supposed to indicate friendship and kindness, which I’ve personally never bought because no friend of mine is special enough for me to buy them 35$ roses. However, this year I had a Valentine and like 90% of the other girls on Valentines, I got her a big bouquet of red roses hoping she wasn’t one of those girls who likes dandelions or something weird like that! At first I was unsure how I would get to a store without my car, but in the spirit of Valentine and procrastination, my friend picked me up the day of and took me to go buy flowers. I even gave one to her mother and sister who said they did not receive any gifts all day just in an effort to cheer them up and it worked as they all rushed to put them in something nice. The irony for me is how fast the roses die, if they don’t get into water fast enough, which can be compared to love which needs constant reassurance or a source of passion in order to flourish or it can turn for the worst and they can die out just like feelings do. Later that day, I found myself scrolling through Instagram and it was there where I saw a girl named Bianca’s instagram picture of her lighting a rose on fire. At first I wondered why she would burn it, so I went ahead and I asked her. She said that “a boy who cheated on her tried to give her a rose and a letter to make it up to her, and for her the rose was just a reminder”. In addition, she also told me that she hated roses, and ironically likes dandelions. Her rose was no longer red, burning with passion, but black, burning with anger and animosity and it got me curious as to what a an actual burning rose would look like. Instead of burning one I got my valentine, I did the smart thing and searched it on tumblr, and that’s when I found a whole bouquet go up in flames.

Makes me wonder what that guy did….


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Unfortunately for me, I had to accompany my friend to Wal-Mart after buying the roses because he insisted that Wegman’s chocolate selection wasn’t to his girlfriend’s standards.

So Picture this…

You’re strolling along in Wal-Mart wondering what on Earth to get your significant other, and its Wal-Mart because of course you’re a thoughtful person, but times are tough you could be on a budget, just adding onto the gifts you already got them, or perhaps you’re the victim of your friend’s girlfriend’s picky taste buds. If you ever do manage to find the isle where this candy is you can see there’s a bunch of chocolates in heart boxes, some more candy, and a GIANT golden Trojan condom display. This was almost as crazy as the man I saw with the cartful of watermelons right before, but then I realized how economically smart this idea actually was despite it being near the vicinity of SpongeBob shaped candy boxes. What was Wal-Mart trying to say? That sex was apart of Valentines, or that sex is love, or were they saying that sex was a gift just like the boxes of chocolates next to them? I was amazed Wal-Mart would do such a thing and it goes to show how closely love and lust are associated with each other in the day we live in. Wal-Mart is assuming that this is just another essential Valentines Day item, and for some adults and even teenagers they would probably be right. Perhaps, Wal-Mart was trying to imply that gifts and celebrations can lead to the exchange of sexual favors. Were they simply reminding all the hormonal teenagers, the friends with benefits, and lustful lovers to think about the long-term repercussions that just one day or one action can have upon you for the rest of your life? Just another example of American corporation’s ideas of product placement for you if you ask me…


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Finally, after school had come to an end and I had no more running around to do, I could finally celebrate my first time having a Valentine.  This new change was nice and I often embraced change as I moved from California to Buffalo, New York when I was younger. Imaging living five minutes away from the beach your whole life and the next minute you move to a place where there are bans on going outsides sometimes because it’s so cold. I despise cold and brutal weather so much so that 99% of the time I want to be somewhere else. For a Valentine’s Day gift I wanted to take my date somewhere with all this in mind as she grew up there too, and has the same hate towards this towns weather as I do.  I wanted to go to a beach, but the only beaches around here are frozen, and buying a plane ticket was risky due to weather cancellations. Then it hit me like one big wave! I took her to stay at Splashlagoon’s Indoor Water Park in Pennsylvania; it had all the aspects of a nice place with water, warmth, and relaxation. When I showed her she was ecstatic, and impressed by my creativity.  So on Saturday we packed are stuff, headed out, and left the place where the nicest thing a guy can do for a girl is pump her gas for her. When we arrived, it was everything we had hoped for, there were a ton of various water slides for all ages, various pools, a hot tub for kids and one for ages 21 and up, a lazy river and a wave pool. Although we were looking forward to the hot tub, there was a wait to get in and a limit for time due to the amount of people that were there on that day. I noticed a fair amount of couples, but I believe the large numbers were due to the amount of unaccompanied kids that were there. What better of a place to drop off the kids to have some alone time with your husband or wife for the holidays! However, it wasn’t all bad, we found relaxation out on the lazy river as we sat there floating around the endless loop on a double tube. Although the lines were long, it was just another opportunity for me and my date to talk with each other, share laughs, and build new memories. This Valentines was simply unforgettable and I learned a lot about the holiday along my journey. For Valentine’s Day, the gifts often vary much between age and culture, but in the end they all show the same universal idea of being thoughtful to others.